Planning A Baby Birthday Party ? A Guide For Men

Where I come from the planning of parties are very often done by the women in the family and you might therefore be in a uncomfortable dilemma if this task is now in your hands and you are a man.

But I can assure you that anyone can throw a birthday party and I will therefore give you a few tips that have helped me over the years. The steps are simple and there are only a few but you will need to take all of them in order for your party to be a joyful event.

You can even print out this guide to have it handy if you are not by a computer on a daily basis. Actually you can use these few steps to plan almost any party you want.

The Steps to a Successful Baby Birthday Party

1. Find a date and write down a list of guests to invite

2. Create the invitations

3. Find out what to eat and drink

Decide on and date and making the list

If you don’t have a date and a time for the party you are making it difficult for your guests to know when to show up so this will always need to be the first step in any party planning. All you have to do is take out your calendar and find a day that is free. If you are planning on inviting people that are working nine to five I suggest that you go for either Friday evening, Saturday of Sunday (not ending to late as some people will need to go to work the day after).

Creating baby birthday invitations

You can be creative and make your own birthday invitations or you can buy some pre-made cards. If you are a creative person you should go for the first options as you will have joy in the process of being the creative card maker. But if you are like most men I suggest that you go buy the invitation cards. The prices are normally low so you won’t have to spend hundreds of dollars.

The eating and the drinking

Finally your guest will need something to drink and eat. Depending on the type of party that you are planning the food and drinks required will vary. Late night dinners will often require more than one dish and some alcoholic drinks will a Brunch invitation will require completely different preparations.

If you are out of ideas go to Google and make a search. You can find almost any recipe for any dish that you might be searching for. There are literally thousands of recipe sites online and you can be sure to find recipes that will suit your every need.

Quality Makes Difference Whether Buying Emile et Rose, Hatley or Other Clothing Brands

Many department stores sell newborn clothes and cute baby clothes, but not all offer organic baby clothes. They also do not always offer clothes of quality. How can a mother tell if her off-the-rack clothes are of superior quality?

One test is to look at the material. Quality baby clothes, even organic clothes, will offer three-piece suits for baby boys in herringbone or royal oxford. Manufacturers such as Emile et Rose do not cut corners by offering cheaper quality fabrics instead of a warm Argyll intarsia knit for the winter months and fine linen.

Why Emile et Rose, Hatley are good Choices

These manufacturers, Emile et Rose and Hatley, provide their organic baby clothes and non-organic clothing in gift boxes. Presentation is key. Mothers are more likely to buy a particular brand if it fits their kids well, the brand always presents their clothing professionally and makes it look appealing to mothers who want modern funky kid clothes, along with traditional choices.

Attention to detail is what mothers look at when buying any baby duds. Is the company consistent in using the highest quality fabrics, embroidering their logo instead of simply using glue, using a collar stand for kids, extra stitching enforcing buttons and adding small touches such as double cargo pockets and woven collars.

Organic baby clothes that are gentle on baby’s Skin

Some baby clothing may be treated with chemicals that can cause a kid to have allergies. Organic baby clothes from Hatley or Emile et Rose are not treated with chemicals. Why do clothing manufacturers use these chemicals? This keeps the clothing looking nice and if the dresses and suits are shipped long distances, this can discourage moths from running the clothes.

Organic baby clothes are chemical-free. This means mothers can choose organic clothes of the softest linen or cotton or bamboo and not worry if their baby will develop a skin rash. This also means kid’s clothing will not gradually lose their softness, as some clothing does with repeated washings over time.

Hatley, designer brands exceed industry Standards

Some clothing manufacturers meet the bare minimum for industry standards. Clothing manufacturers excel in meeting not only the industry standards, but going beyond what parents expect. This is what makes Hatley and Emilie et Rose recognizable brands.

Hatley for example makes rain gear for babes that is PVC-free. They also offers witty, fun designs, like pirate dogs, that other clothing manufacturer do not offer. And, like some name brand designers, Hatley makes their wellies and coats of the highest quality fasteners, soft terry, and also highest grade plastic. This is why mothers should be picky when choosing modern baby duds that are the highest quality and look the best of their kid.

Setting Limits And Establishing Boundaries: A Parenting Gift That Keeps On Giving

My husband is often flabbergasted at the disrespectful things that come out of my five year old boy’s mouth. ?I WILL NOT brush my teeth, hmmph!? our little boy declares with a stamp of his mini, size 12 foot, or ?GIVE ME another cookie!? My dear spouse’s jaw drops and he says, ?I don’t remember ever speaking to my mother that way, how should we handle this-

I don’t like his behavior, but I don’t feel as concerned?I know that my five year old son’s behavior is normal. He is pushing the limits and testing us.

Am I being na?ve? Are we destined to raise a self-centered, narcissistic barbarian?

No! We are going to continue what we have been doing since he was a newborn, to set limits and establish boundaries. We didn’t let him stick a fork into the electrical socket, and we won’t let him be antisocial and disrespectful. We will continue to parent with the understanding that children are not developed morally at five.

Does setting limits mean saying no, no, no, no, no ad nauseum? ?well? no.

Setting Limits

Why set limits? Besides the perfunctory safety issues, setting limits teaches children how to gain self control, which in turn allows them to regulate their behavior so that it is socially acceptable. Socially acceptable behavior is a good thing; it is very difficult to perform in school, play at a friend’s house, have meaningful relationships, raise a family, or hold down a job with socially unacceptable behavior. Regular people just don’t want to be around people who are boorish and ill behaved.

Setting limits helps children feel safe. Little children do not like to feel out of control. For children to grow and thrive they need a secure home with structure. Kids want a set bath time, bedtime, wake-up time etc. Knowing ?what happens next? is important to a child’s sense of well-being. Without too much rigidity, parents should set a schedule and live by it.

It can be tough for parents to set limits because it means saying no. How does a loving mom or dad look into a sweet little face and deny a request? Knowing that part of a child’s development is pushing the limits in an attempt to gain independence is the key. If the parent gives in or fails to discipline, the family will suffer, power shifts from parent to child, and it becomes the classic case of the tail wagging the dog. A parent is doing no favor to a child by allowing the power to shift from parent to child.

Parents should parent, not befriend. They should guide with a warm, loving, comforting, patient, understanding, kind and firm touch. By establishing and enforcing rules that, for instance, limit how long children are watching television or on the computer, parents remind children that they have limits, and that the parent is in charge. Setting limits helps build the child’s respect for the parents. Setting limits also teaches children how to set their own limits as they mature.

Boundaries

Learning to establish boundaries is a critical part of human development. Children need to understand both about physical and emotional boundaries. Parents should model good boundary setting, and discuss with children that setting boundaries teaches other people how to treat them. Discuss with children that they have a right to be treated the way they want to be treated. Setting boundaries teaches children how to protect themselves both physically and emotionally.

Parents can explain what appropriate physical boundaries are to children and how to establish their own personal space and to respect the personal space of others. A child’s sense of physical boundaries is very different than that of an adult. Observe a well-loved teacher reading to a circle of little children; if the teacher doesn’t establish boundaries some of the children will literally be sitting on her by the end of the story. Help children to read the cues that people give them and listen to their own inner voice that tells them when they feel uncomfortable with the proximity of another person. Parents should be gentle; the goal is not to scare children away from other people. Instead, the goal is to teach what is socially acceptable in order for children to relate well and comfortably to other children and adults.

Emotional boundaries are a more difficult concept to teach. Many people go into adulthood without understanding how to establish healthy emotional boundaries. Adults who feel pushed around at work, or feel taken advantage of by friends and relatives, often haven’t learned how to establish good emotional boundaries. Parents should teach children how to communicate directly and honestly. Children must be taught to have dignity and respect for themselves and learn that they are priceless and special.

Parents should not blame children for ?making them? whatever: angry, sad, heartbroken, or frustrated. A good way for parents to model healthy emotional boundaries is to take ownership of their own feelings. Children act exactly how human children are supposed to act, they should not feel responsible for the emotions of their parents. Parents should teach children that people are responsible for their own feelings. Children should not be burdened in childhood thinking that their normal behavior can ?make? their parents feel a certain way or vice versa, a parent’s lousy mood shouldn’t affect a child’s emotions. Parents do not want their children’s emotions to be enmeshed with their own. Quite the opposite: everyone should take ownership for their own feelings.

By teaching limit setting and establishing good boundaries parents give an enormous lifetime gift to their children, self respect and dignity. Modeling good behavior and taking the role of parent seriously allows parents to fulfill their greatest wish of raising happy, well adjusted and emotionally stable children.

And remember everything in moderation. As the Buddhists say, if the guitar string is too tight it will break. If it is too loose it will not make a sound. Tighten just enough.