Common Sense Parenting – Setting Boundaries

Webster’s New World Dictionary defines boundary as anything marking a limit. When we think of setting boundaries for our children, we often think of the limits we want to allow our children.

Children want to know what their boundaries are. When your little one begins walking, usually you put up gates in the house for the areas you don’t want your toddler to go (i.e. stairs, kitchen). As your child grows you set new boundaries for them. Maybe you fence in the backyard and tell your child that they can only play in the backyard. You might only want them to watch certain shows on television. Many parents have already set boundaries for each year of their child’s life, before they even get to that year.

The important thing about setting boundaries is that they should be thought out, realistic, and you as the parent should be willing to adapt. Remember the boundaries your parents set for you? They might not work for your

children. Although, I do believe that many of the boundaries I had as a child are still workable today. Sometimes some boundaries we set for our

children might not work. That’s when we need to consider why they’re not working and adjust them accordingly.

For instance, you wouldn’t set the same bedtime for your preschooler as you would for your preteen. Nor would you expect your preteen to only be allowed to play in the backyard. Be careful with the boundaries you set, especially for your older children. Try to be fair and appropriate with the boundaries you set for your children. Talk with your children and explain the why behind the boundaries you have set. Don’t just give the lame answer “because I said so”. Children are people too and they need to understand the why behind everything.

This does not mean that your child has control, it simply means that you are setting an example of how things are done and why. Your younger child needs boundaries so that they are aware of what or where they can go. The same applies to your older child, but including your older child in the decision making process is often a good idea. As they grow, they need to feel apart of the decision making process on the rules they are expected to follow. You will find that it often makes it easier on you, as the parent, when you involve your older child in the important decisions on what the boundaries are within your family. It also sets a good example to your children on how a family works.

Too many parents forget what it was like to be a child and how they felt that they had no say in their lives. When you include your older children in the decision making process, you gain their respect and give them opportunities to prove themselves. Our children are children for a short time and suddenly they are grown ups. Provide your children with good, fair boundaries and they will grow into responsible parents one day.

Remember to set realistic boundaries that your children can easily understand.

Parent Good Behavior: How To Build Your Child’s Self-esteem 5 Secret Tips

Most people think that they can influence their child’s confidence by giving them lots of praise, but the real truth is what truly enables a child to utilize opportunities and feel confident is the ability to think in ways that see opportunities so that your child can seize the opportunities. This has been called possibility thinking. It trains the brain to look for possibilities vs. limitations.

Raising children with a high degree of self-esteem helps insure that your children can utilize these advantages or possibilities. Most importantly though, is how you train your child’s mind to think and speak. This will be the largest contributor to your child’s success. As a child, there is an unconscious learning process that takes place by observing parents, called modeling. It is when your child watches what you do and models the behavior you exhibit.

How you model your personal behavior in situations both stressful and non-stressful is how children learn to deal with the world on a daily basis. In a stressful situation if you personally are a quitter, I do not care how smart your child is or how good their grades are, they will also learn a pattern of quitting by observing you model quitting in daily life.

If you unconsciously seek validation from others, your child will learn, by you modeling it to them, that validation from outside yourself is a must have and then go seek it from their peers. If you model self-command to them, then they too will learn self-command.

If you model fear during a crisis, your children unconsciously learn how to have the same toxic thinking pattern you do. Children learn limited negative or possibility thinking from you and your daily actions because it is the only example that is being modeled to them in that moment.

Parents play a big role in the development of their child’s ability to think and act in daily life. Whether they learn limited negative or power thinking habits depends on what you allow daily in your house and what you model for them.

As a parent you are the class room of life. Children learn your thinking style and habits. As a parent, it matters what behavior you model to them every day. In the real world you must model true, authentic self-esteem, not a false sense of self-esteem, if you want them to learn and have it.

Here are 5 steps to modeling successful behaviors to your children

Parents, model desired behavior

You can not expect your child to do what you are unwilling to do. If you do not want them to develop certain habits, you must make sure that you do not model those habits and behaviors for them.

Parents, examine your thinking and speaking habits.

There are six deadly accepted limited thinking and speaking habits that can sabotage your success and your child’s success forever if it continues going unnoticed. You must learn what they are and avoid using any one of them. This will help ensure your child’s future success habits.

Parents, stop the continued daily usage of limited thinking.

Even in the smallest amounts limited negative thinking destroys your child’s aspirations and yours before they even begin. Not understanding what limited thinking really is can allow you to use it all the time without you knowing it. Learn what limited thinking and speaking habits you use.

Parents, learn and model self command.

Self-command is the ability to take action in a direction and maintain a powerful level of excitement, focus and drive to complete the task. Learn to drive your own personal power then model it for your children and your children will naturally develop this powerful tool to help them succeed in their daily activities. This will give your child the edge in life. It teaches your child strong leadership skills

Parents, understand the plays in your play book.

Every family has a play book that they use to play the game of life. When you understand what plays you and your child have in the family play book, you can find the plays that have been used to sabotage results and replace them with plays that produce desired results.

Modeling desired behavior for your children helps them develop into strong adults with strong self-command and self-esteem. Your child will watch you. What you do, your children will do. Teach them how to have the life of their dreams, by you having and modeling the life of your dreams.

Why You Need A Diaper Cake Today

Diaper cakes are getting extremely popular and offer surprisingly large number of benefits at the same time. Largest advantage is that making a diaper cake not being a tough task makes the diaper cake look amazingly professional.

Diaper cakes leave eternal impressions. Moreover, a new mother can readily make use of items present in these cakes, right from baby blankets, pins, and baby soaps to diapers. Diaper cakes are in different sizes from one layer to three layers.

However, you may want to know the reasons or benefits for making a diaper cake. The four reasons for making a diaper cake are as follows:

1. If you make a diaper cake at home, you can use your own creativity and make it as per your wish. If your baby party has some theme, then you may easily create the diaper cake according to this theme. Moreover, individuals can log onto internet sites, refer to articles, and make diaper cakes on their own.

2. Making a diaper cake is easy. It is not at all time consuming and with little efforts, individuals can make attractive gifts.

3. You do not have to buy expensive items to make these diaper cakes. Diapers are the main component and they are useful after the babies are born. Individuals can use powders, baby shampoos, pins, rattler, and combs and so on. You do not have to spend inexhaustible amount of money to make a diaper cake.

4. If you are intending to send a diaper cake to a person who stays far off through shipment, then you can do so easily without worrying about the damages. The layers of diapers support one another so the need of special boxes and other packaging material is not required. Simply secure it using a bubble wrap and ship your cake.

So, if you are expectant parents or you have to attend some baby shower, then making a diaper cake at home is the best option.